Hello, my name is Kate

I'm a woman, just like you, who has experienced the pain of an unfaithful husband. I am a mom of two energetic boys, a wife, an entrepreneur, and a Jesus follower. My husband and I have been married for 17 years. But 5 years into our marriage I learned that our entire marriage was rooted in lies and deception.

"D-Day"

In October 2012, just after my son's first birthday, I picked up my husband's phone and saw something I never expected....text messages with another woman that no wife wants to read. Over the next few weeks I slowly uncovered a web of deception through the trickle truths of a staggered disclosure. I continued to hit what I thought was rock bottom, only to learn of something worse. I discovered lies and unfaithful actions stemming all the way back to when we were engaged. The pain was unbearable. My heart was broken. And I had no idea what to do.

Navigating the Pain

Before I knew if I wanted to stay married, I knew that I needed to focus on my own healing. Whatever future relationship I would be in, I didn't want to bring my pain and brokenness with me. So, I set out to figure out how to do that. I didn't have a roadmap, or a guide, just a desire to be whole again. I didn't always feel like I could do anything about how I felt. But on the days when I did, I read books, searched online, met with an amazing mentor, and took one step at a time to move forward.

In the end, my decision to focus on my heart first, while my husband pursued his own healing, paved the way for us to rebuild a marriage that's now stronger than ever!

Pain to Purpose

When we finally made it to the other side, and our marriage was on stable ground, we said yes when God asked us to use our experience for something more than just ourselves. We said yes to helping others who walked through this same dark valley.

My husband began attending, then leading a group of men pursuing healing from the destructive grip of pornography and unhealthy sexual choices. Together we have had the opportunity to walk beside couples as they faced the pain of infidelity.

And I have found purpose in helping other women who are dealing with the unbearable hurt of an unfaithful spouse find healing of their own.